|Robert Graham Paris|
If you believe reports from the time his clients included Lucille Ball, Bill Bixby, Lloyd Bridges, Carol Channing, Bette Davis, Glenn Ford, the Gabor sisters, Rita Hayworth, Shirley Temple, and Shelly Winters. He is also the author of a notable acting book called How To Act.
So what warrants a discussion of my great uncle when I barely remember him from a few short visits he paid to Worland in the 60s and 70s? The answer is complicated.
Robert Graham Paris and I share some similarities. I was in my early 30s before I understood why my uncle was a bachelor and why my family was uncomfortable talking about him. That was when someone finally got up the nerve to uncomfortably whisper, "he may have been a homosexual." There have been similar uncomfortable whisperings about me.
We also share a middle name: Graham. My father has the same middle name. So it's a link to someone I didn't really know, but would have liked to.
Oh. And we both spent time with Carol Channing.
Recently, I went through the torture of renovating my kitchen. During that time I also dealt with the unnerving death of my best friend, confidant, and companion of 18 years, Felix Flores. Those two events created a situation I can't seem to resolve. For over a month I've had a gleaming new gas range complete with a stunning, modern hood. And I haven't been able to bring myself to cook a thing on or in it.
I always cooked dinner for Felix and me. And now I can't face a new stove, not even to boil water.
That brings me back to Robert Graham Paris. I've been looking for something to give meaning to the first use of my new stove. Something that would make me realize that cooking just for me could still be comforting. Something that would recognize the grief and sadness I feel, but that would honor Felix's weird and quirky nature.
It just so happens that my great uncle Robert Graham Paris was also the author of a cook book; the tragically-titled Gourmet Cooking for One.
|Gourmet Cooking for One by Robert Graham Paris published in 1968.|
A few years ago someone published Microwave Cooking for One (which could be a description of my current culinary life). And I wondered if it was an even more tragic title. But now I imagine a mature gentleman with silvering hair. Possibly in his 50s. Wearing a cravat and smoking jacket. Sitting down in a lone chair at the end of a long table with a single setting of fine china. The candles flicker as wax drips onto a damask table cloth. He slowly lifts a fork and savors his first bite of asparagus soufflé.
With that image glowing in my mind, Gourmet Cooking for One becomes cinematically tragic. A tale only a Hollywood acting coach could inspire. And only a friend like Felix would find as fitting and absurd as I do.
That's why, the first thing I will cook on and in my new range will be asparagus soufflé from Gourmet Cooking for One by Robert Graham Paris. Then, I will sit down at a beautifully appointed table with floral centerpieces and flickering candles. I will grieve, and feel guilty, and probably cry. I will raise a glass to Felix and to all the wonderful meals we shared together. And I will wish that he were here to capture the entire affair in a cinematic photograph.
Then, I should probably plan a dinner party with friends to make sure I haven't completely lost it.